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Positive Self Talk: 
How to Get It and Make It Automatic


Positive self talk can quickly be obtained by
managing your negative “brain trains” in a very simple and straightforward way that becomes addictive.

You can use the power of suggestion simply by changing the phrases you use in your inner talk.

Your self talk is also a form of autosuggestion or self suggestion, which is exactly what it says it is...

Your "automatic" thoughts or "self" suggestions programming you minute by minute.

And, yes some people spell it auto-suggestion, but either way, you're automatically continuing the same line of thoughts until you decide to make a change.

What is positive self talk?

First, let's discuss what it is and why you want it.

Positive self talk is a way your internal voice talks to you that uplifts you and encourages you.

Studies have shown that people who maintain a positive “mode of being” have numerous benefits and effects.

One benefit that the field of positive psychology has discovered is that positive people have more “brain” available to them for use.  So the more positive you become, the more aptitude you have for achieving results...

In other words, having more brain to use equals...

Having a better ability to think, which equals...

Making your life work smarter!

Okay, so let's move on to...
  • Distinguishing Between Positive and Negative Talk
  • How to Start More Positive Self Talk
  • How to Make Positive Thoughts Automatic

Distinguishing Between Positive Self Talk
and Negative Self Talk

Are you using your "automatic" power of suggestion positively or negatively?

Like I said earlier, positive self talk is that internal voice that “uplifts and encourages” us...

Sometimes, though, our inner talk isn't guiding us as positively as we think.

Take these two examples:

“I won't fail – I've got to do this – I'm scared, but I'm doing it anyway.”


“I choose to do this – I am moving toward success – I have the power to make this work.”

Now take a moment and re-read example #1 taking a few seconds to “feel” those words. Let the energy of those words resonate with you for about 10 seconds...

“I won't fail – I've got to do this – I'm scared, but I'm doing it anyway.”

How do they make you feel?

Maybe a little “motivated?”

Now re-read the second example and do the same...

“I choose to do this – I am moving toward success – I have the power to make this work.”

How did you feel with the second example?


When I just did this, I took a sigh of relief with the second phrase. It made me feel good.

So, which example “uplifted and encouraged” you?

Made you feel "relieved?"

Did you feel that example #1 was something like a drill sergeant? Trying to motivate you to do something “against all odds?”

Sometimes motivating ourselves that way works, but wouldn't it be nicer to move to the next level and have positive self talk that comes from a place of power?

That second example comes from that place of power.

Look at it again...

I choose...

There's no victim here.

I am moving...

Taking action.

I have the power...

Encouraging you to be powerful.

Now I know these two examples are rather extreme, but I wanted to make the point that sometimes our innertalk isn't helping us as best as it can and that there are other choices to make in the same situation...

The same rules I just used for writing the above affirmations should be applied to managing your self talk...

Look for the positive twist of the phrase or situation. When you find yourself focused on pushing yourself through something, take a break and find a gentler, better feeling way to accomplish the same goal.

And rely on your own emotional intelligence to guide you into a better feeling state.

And, by the way, anything that we're "thinking in our heads" eventually comes out our mouths.  So if you want to keep positive speech in your life, start with what you're saying to yourself in your head.

Okay, next...

How to Start More Positive Self Talk

First step is to become consciously aware of the “brain trains” that are chugging through your head day and night...

Those trains of thought that run rampant like a runaway locomotive...

You've got to get in the middle of the “inner talk” tracks and say “Stop.”

So, first step is to bring your awareness to what you're thinking about.

Sounds simple enough, right?

Okay, but how do you do that when you're taking the kids to soccer and have a million things to do?

Just start...

Start to notice what goes on in your head.

Are you worrying?

Worry is negative visualization,
you know. You're broadcasting "thoughts" to the universe about something that you don't want to happen...


Stop it in its tracks! Just say “stop” either out loud or internally.

If you're walking down a busy city street, I think you'll agree it's a risky choice to suddenly say "Stop" out loud!

I don't know about you, but I don't think that the people out there who are walking the streets and talking out loud to themselves are practicing positive thinking...

Or even coherent thinking.

Better to be in your car - alone - or just keep it to yourself.

Do anything to stop that train.

Put in a movie, go for a walk, get further into work...

Whatever it takes to keep that train halted.

On the definition of positive attitude page, there's a very cute Bob Newhart video that humorously makes this point.  If you have the time, take a minute to go there now, watch the video and then hit the back button...

I'll wait here for your return.

Okay, once the "brain" train is stopped, then it's time to coach yourself to finding the opposite of each “negative thought” train.

Find the positive side of things...

What are you learning from the experience?

How can you make the experience different?

Gee, does that second one ask you to be powerful and take action?

Yes, be powerful and take action once you've stopped the negative self talk train.

how-to-change-your-beliefsIf you want a program that gives you greater detail in how to identify your self talk as well as gives you tools such as a 10-step guided meditation script, meditation audios, silent subliminals that help you trust yourself and other "goodies" that help you take charge of your life, check out The Effective Positive Thinking Program.

Before you know it, the positive self talk train starts rolling down the tracks and the more it rolls, the more speed and momentum it creates, which is what I'll discuss next...

How to Make Positive Thoughts Automatic

Now that you've...
  1. Become aware of your “brain trains”
  2. Taken charge of your inner talk by stopping the train
  3. Re-routed the negative thinking to more positive thoughts,

Your self image begins to change
, both externally and internally.

Externally, you're happier more often...

You start dressing differently...

Or becoming more active.

People are more drawn to you now...

Instead of complaining, you take action.

Instead of letting your drill sergeant “rag on you,” you're gentler with yourself inside, so you've become gentler and more peaceful outside...

Internal change brings external change – we've all heard that.

But what if the external work you've been doing – by consistently altering your thoughts -- actually changes you on a cellular level?

In the movie,“What the Bleep Do We Know,” they discuss how our cell receptors change to accommodate the “most prevalent” emotion.

That we actually get physically “addicted” to whatever thoughts we are constantly thinking.

So, if you're always angry, you put out “angry chemicals” and your cell receptors change over to accommodate the new chemicals in your system.

But what if you've interrupted that process by externally switching to positive self talk.

You've changed the data feed to your system.

So, if you were originally addicted to anger, by removing that chemical and replacing it with “calm” chemistry, your body will actually help you by replacing the angry receptors with “calm” receptors...

Which cycles back into more “calm” chemistry in your system, thus more receptors, etc., etc.

It's really all very scientific. Be sure to check out, “What the Bleep” to get the whole story – it's really fascinating...

And the way they present it is very funny too. Yes, the movie's very dry and scientific, but the part that drives home what I'm talking about here is hysterical.


Positive self talk is your innertalk that encourages and uplifts you.

Changing your addiction from negative thinking to positive thoughts is “do-able” by:
  1. Becoming aware of your thoughts, and
  2. Stopping them and consciously “flipping” them to becoming positive.
Positive thoughts are what make positive self talk.

Being kind to yourself is the secret to making this work...

After all, if you're kind to yourself, wouldn't it make sense that your “chemical” factory would be putting out “kindness” chemicals, to which your cells could become addicted?

Positive self talk is the key. Take the first step...

Be sure to check out this article too if you haven't already:

Autosuggestion vs. Self Talk:  What's the Difference?
Are all forms of autosuggestion the same? Find the form that suits your personality for best results with this guide...


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